Male boss is mistaking my kindess as a romantic interest. What should I do??

Hello,
I need some good advice on how to conduct myself professionally with a manager that has a personality that clashes with mine.
My manager is fairly new to our company (less than 1 year) and I was excited that our department was getting a new manager because I saw this as an opportunity for me career-wise to make an impression. I take the initiative to ask him if he needs help with projects in which he was more than happy to give me work to do. I try to make an effort to be polite and respectful towards him and even help out my other co-workers with projects and others things in which my job does not require me to do. I want to do this because I want to make an impression so I can put this on my resume for future purposes.
The problem is that I feel like because I am doing this, now my manager is being rude and ignores me and does not treat me well. I feel like my efforts and my work are unappreciated and that he is mistaking my efforts as a romantic interest-they are not!

All I want from him is a raise and to make a good impression-I know men and women think and act differently and sometimes misunderstand each other. How should I conduct myself professionally without having someone misread my actions? I am not attracted to him at all, I already have a boyfriend, and I don't date coworkers. Just there for my paycheck, that is all!

Tell him straight that you did not expect for him as a professional like yourself would misinterpret your enthusiasm as an advance, reintroduce yourself to him and say lets start over as colleagues! P.S dress very professional not sexy it always puzzles me how us men get to wear a 2 piece suit and penny Loafers and women have to dress like their going to a beauty pageant don't get me wrong I love to see a beautiful woman but that takes away from what she is really there to do and that is work! I can focus but it seems your boss can't! Hope this helps GOD BLESS and Take Care!
Happy New Year!

You know what to do. Get that promotion.

Hm. Well, maybe just sit with him and talk to him. If that is what he thinks, it will clear everything up, and if it isn't why he's being rude, find out why he is, and try to fix whatever it is.

You came on way too strong - doing what most others may see as "brown-nosing" - you have started a pattern that you cannot keep. Unfortunately, you are doomed. If I were you, I would seriously be trying to transfer out or get another job elsewhere.

I don't understand. You helping others gets a rude reaction from him? I'd talk to him. There is no other way to know the score of why he is doing this. He may just be being rude for its own sake. You may be reading him wrong, so talk to him about the rudeness and where it is coming from, why he does this. Good luck.

Say something to him. Tell him you've noticed his attitude and your not comfortable with it. Don't tell him what you think he thinks. If it doesn't change either stop helping him and wait for him to ask for help or tell HR!
Good luck and don't be too nice to him. Male superiors think that most women want them like that so don't show your willingness to do anything he says or he'll think less of you!

I don't see how he seems to be romantically interested, it sounds like he's just using you, taking advantage of your kindness. If he is doing something that you are uncomfortable with, I would confront him on it directly as soon as possible--BEFORE things get any uglier. Ask a coworker to be present if that helps. Or just try to get the message across in as light-hearted a way as possible without offending him or putting him on the defensive. But if he's not actually doing anything to make you uncomfortable, you can either keep doing him favors and note it in your resume whether he appreciates these things or not (he can't deny that you do them.) Or you can just stop doing the favors since they're not expected of you or part of your duties anyway. Hope that helps! :)

Invite him to a dinner with one of "hot "your girl friend,your boy friend or husband...inform him (your boss) of your crazy hot girl friend who is an attorney

You SOUND like an office Goody Goody Two Shoes wanting, if NOT to sleep her way to the top, at least SCHMOOZE her way there.

IF he needs your assistance he KNOWS where you are at. Try to do the ASSIGNED job and not be seen as such a busybody. If you are let go of this job because of your preceived incompatibility to intergrate into the workforce, how will THAT look on a resume?

You scare the man and you are most CERTAINLY pressuring him with your incessant and mis-understood approaches to "being helpful".

Mentioning a boyfriend in passing, real or not could assist to show your already romantically involved life.
Try to make your intentions clear by taking away any emotional link or tone that could suggest you're interested.
Start slowly, and back off when you know the time is right.
Too much involvement too soon is a big sign of romantic interest, so do as much as you can, when asked, and use initiative... It's a difficult situation of knowing when enough is enough, like trying to be a high achiever, but not over achieving.

I think there's a good chance you misjudge the whole situation. As a new manager he might be fairly insecure in his role and is just pushing back at you BECAUSE you are trying to help.

Back off for a while; but anytime he asks your assistance or for information be careful to answer the question he is asking (not what you think he might mean) and don't go on with unneeded information.

If he is a going to be a good manager for you & your career, then after a while you should see a change, that he will begin to rely on you.

Of course, it might be that he just doesn't agree with you, especially on the vision for your team.

just tell him that he is mistaking ur kindness for romantic interest, lol.

Tell your supervisor your intentions to broaden your abilities to perform.Your job as well as others just in case something arises therefore you are trying.To learn your job and others for the sake of being flexible and versatile.Say,"I THOUGHT I WAS DOING A WONDERFUL JOB,ON THE CONTRARY SOMEONE HAS.MISTAKEN MY KINDNESS FOR A WEAKNESS,MY INTENTIONS ARE DEALING WITH THE JOB ONLY.BEYOND THE DUTIES PERTAINING TO THE JOB I HAVEN'T ANY INTEREST"."FROM THIS POINT FORWARD I WILL KEEP LOG OF MY ACTIONS AND INTERACTIONS.JUST IN CASE IT IS NEEDED FOR FUTURE REFERENCE".

You should probably quit or transfer. Above all, dress and act professional. Sounds like you are leaving something out of the scenario because men don't customarily act this way to someone being helpful.

Hello,

Your story is to long so I did not use my time to read it.NOW, i shall do a kind deed and make this message short so people don't waste to much of there time reading this.